People Come Into Your Life For A Reason, A Season, Or A Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support,
To aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are..
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,
Things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson,
Love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant
Thank you for being a part of my life,
Whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.
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A dear friend sent me a this letter that helped me through a painful time of rejection from a loved one. I become deeply invested in the people I love, and I have a hard time accepting it when they turn away from me. Yet this is a fact of life. If I didn’t care, it wouldn’t hurt so much. Love opens us up to heartache, but we can’t stop loving, because love also brings great joy. The pain in our hearts is real, but so are the joy and happiness that come when we reach out to others in love.
Rejection from family is the hardest to get through, because family is supposed to last a lifetime. Yet all too often, people label family members as “unsafe” and cut off the relationship entirely. Setting aside cases of real abuse or malice, where someone truly intends to cause harm, many of these breaks begin with a simple misunderstanding. That is the tragedy behind so many family rejections and so much hurt between loved ones.
Communication is the key to restoring a relationship, and it is also the way to prevent rejection in the first place. Not telling someone what you’re thinking can be as damaging as telling them a lie. If we want honest, open relationships, we must use love and wisdom in what we say and in how we involve others. Kindness, even when we disagree, goes a long way toward clearing up misunderstandings about our motives and views.
This may sound like common sense, but hurt changes the way we see things. We avoid conflict because working through problems with others is hard. We feel certain we were wronged, so we feel justified in rejecting the person who offended us, even when we don’t know all the facts. Days turn into months, and sometimes years. We grow used to the distance and feel right about it. Forgiveness drifts far from our minds, and our hearts harden.
This is not God’s way. We are all in this thing called life together, and we all make mistakes. People are precious to God, and they should be precious to us too. When Jesus was asked which commandment was the greatest, He answered in Matthew 22:37–40:
“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.” This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.
Love God and love others. What a concept! How many of the world’s problems would be solved if we simply did that? These words comfort me, and Jesus reminds me that all things are possible for those who believe, including the reconciliation of families and the restoring of fellowship.
Keep on keeping on. Love God, and love others.
Lord, help me to honor this in my heart. 🙂 Walt
